The Church does not claim that people with a homosexual orientation are ‘bad,’ or that their children are less loved by God… But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ.”Funny, but I don’t recall Jesus railing against lesbian parents or unmarried sorts. After all, Jesus’ mother was pregnant from someone other than his father and his best friend was a whore. I also rather doubt that the school is kicking out all divorced parents or unmarried heterosexual ones. But I digress, the real question is not what would Jesus do, but why do queers want to be part of institutions that hold so firmly to the belief that there are straights and gays and gays are sinful or bad for army morale or not full citizens? In other words, what would make queers send their kids to Catholic schools, join the military, or try to get access to marriage? I will leave it to the psychologists to discuss internalized homophobia and a deep need to be accepted by those who hate us. Being a sociologist, I suggest we keep our eye on something else: social power. In purely economic terms, there are reasons to join the military, get married and send our children to parochial schools that are much less expensive because they are religious. In a country where income distribution is by far the most unequal in the industrialized world, where access to higher education involves huge amounts of debt for the majority of Americans, and where jobs that pay a livable wage are few and far between without a university degree, the military is one of the few promised paths to future financial well-being. Of course, it’s a promise that is rarely realized- but nonetheless, it is a promise. The same holds for the benefits of marriage- health insurance, property transfer, etc. As for Catholic schools, they’re cheaper than most private schools and the level of education can be quite a bit better than our underfunded public schools. But it’s not just about money. It’s about privilege and status. It’s also, more fundamentally, about a sense of being a good person. Good people love their country enough to kill and die for it; good people are married people; good people do everything in their power to ensure their children have as many opportunities as possible. Good grief. Good people should love their country enough to resist illegal wars of aggression, insist that civil rights not be distributed on the basis of marital status, and fight for excellent public education for all our children. I’m no Christian, but even a sinner like me knows that’s what Jesus would do.