I can't believe I'm saying this - don't have sex," Gaga said during a stop in England, according to MTV.com. She was there promoting MAC Cosmetics' Viva Glam campaign, which supports HIV and AIDS projects around the world. I'm single right now and I've chosen to be single because I don't have the time to get to know anybody," she continued. "So it's OK not to have sex, it's OK to get to know people. I'm celibate, celibacy's fine"I can't believe she's saying that either. Call me old-fashioned, but why can't Gaga advocate safer sex practices, like using a condom, rather than abstinence? After all, condoms have been shown to be far more effective at stopping the spread of HIV than "Just say no to sex" campaigns. The recent re-funding of Abstinence Sex Education in US schools under the Health Care Bill created a firestorm because of the lack of evidence that Abstinence works to stop teen pregnancy or AIDS. A recent article on CNN pointed out that:
A congressionally mandated study in 2007 found that none of four abstinence programs showed a significant positive effect on sexual behavior among youth. A January 2009 study in Pediatrics found that religious teens who take virginity pledges are less likely to use condoms or birth control when they become sexually active, and just as likely to have sex before marriage as their peers who didn't take pledges.The evidence has been piling up for years: condoms prevent HIV and unwanted pregnancy; abstinence campaigns promote hyper-sexualized pop singers' ( like Britney back in the day and Gaga now) careers. But somehow, given Gaga's supposed willingness to be different, I expected more from her. In truth, I was somewhat gaga for Gaga up until this point. Her insanely brilliant lyrics like "I want your ugly, I want your disease" seemed to expose exactly the sort of perversely self-destructive desires that most of us feel, but few of us admit. They seemed the opposite of the "good romance" that we are coerced into wanting: dyadic monogamous coupling resulting in a white wedding and a life of being "good" and "productive" adults. But now Gaga is part of the "just say no to sex" rather than "just put a condom on it" world . She is not just single, but celibate. A strategy that may work for Gaga- at least for a few days- but doesn't work for most American young people for the long term as study after study now shows. [daylifegallery id="1271255131490"] And as the mother of two girls, I don't want them to be celibate until they're married. Marriage is not "good" and fucking around is not "bad." Fucking around irresponsibly, without ethics and without safer sex, is bad- whether you're married or not. Married people do have sex outside their marriages just like teens who take virginity pledges have premarital sex just as often as teens who don't take such a pledge. The point is to encourage responsibility in all sexual relations: teen and adult; married and unmarried. If only Gaga could be gaga for condoms. Then I would happily continue to listen to her music ad nauseam. But with her ridiculous celibacy advocacy, I am afraid that from now on I will have to treat Gaga and her music as just as insipid as those other famous virginity advocates, the Jonas Brothers. Gaga is now like all those Disney twerps who preach virginity until marriage and make a fortune doing it. As such, Gaga is no longer worth listening to.